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A Mother’s Day Cancer

Mothers and their children. Sons and daughters. Brothers and sisters. Such complicated relationships.

I live in Pennsylvania and my mother lives in Colorado, so we don’t visit often. But I call her once a week and I look forward to those calls. Yesterday I called her and she thanked me for her Mother’s Day card, commenting about the picture I’d enclosed (my son’s school picture), and we discussed our mundane lives and the weather. We never talk long, just a few moments, and we don’t talk about serious stuff like politics or religions. I usually ask if she’s heard from any of my siblings and, if she has, we discuss that, but usually the call is just: “Hi, how are you, you feeling okay, I love you, bye…”

I have a brother who disappears from our lives for years at a time. Every once in a while we hear from him, usually when he needs money, and then he’ll disappear again until the next time. His life is something we’ve accepted. We don’t understand it but we accept it.

Last night Mom called me. After an absence of only a few months, she’d heard from my brother. He’s in the hospital with stomach cancer. He’s in a lot of pain, and the doctors don’t have much hope.

Like my mother, my brother lives in Colorado. So, today, on Mother’s Day, she will visit him in the hospital. When she gets home, she’ll call me with an update. And, if he wants to talk to me, she’ll give me his phone number.

Mothers and their children. Sons and daughters. Brothers and sisters. Such complicated relationships.

Happy Mother’s Day.

 

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Why I LOVE E-Readers …

At the end of last summer I reluctantly bought a Kindle. I use the word “reluctantly” because I really didn’t see the need to purchase an electronic reader. After all, I LOVED books (still do), LOVED going to the library (still do), and LOVED the smell and feel of books (still do).

But, I was about to self-publish my first novel, WINDFALL, and part of that venture was releasing an electronic version of my book. I thought if I was going to ask e-readers to buy my book, then I should at least understand their experience.

So, in July or August of 2011, when I was 59, I bought a Kindle. It didn’t take long to become hooked.

Now, remember, when I opened my Kindle I had 50+ years experience turning pages. I was immediately struck by the Kindle’s small size. It wasn’t as thick as most books I read, and it was light. I had known Kindles weighed very little but, for someone with arthritis in their thumb joints, to experience is to comprehend.

I found the Kindle “user friendly” and, in no time at all, I had downloaded a couple of “free” books from Amazon.com. I was amazed at the plethora of free or almost-free titles available.

I have terrible vision. One eye is nearsighted and the other eyes is farsighted and I need bifocals. Therefore, when I discovered I could adjust the font size (the size of the letters) on my Kindle, I was ecstatic.

Sometimes while I read, I find a phrase I’d like to remember. If I’m reading a book and don’t have a notepad with me, the phrase is usually lost in the deep recesses of my  brain. But, the Kindle makes it easy to record memorable passages with a feature that allows you to copy into a file called “my clippings.” As a writer, this feature alone makes the price of the Kindle worth its price.

When I read, there are time come across a word I don’t know. The Kindle helps me out with this, too. I just highlight the word and “presto”, the definition pops up.

Now, I love to take hot bubble baths, especially in cold weather, and read while I soak. With a book I could do this. But, I wasn’t so sure with a Kindle. Lord, what would happen if I dropped my Kindle in the water? What I’ve discovered is that my Kindle fits nicely in a one-quart zip-lock freezer bag and, even with the Kindle in the bag the buttons work as intended.

I can borrow e-books for my Kindle through the library. This is great if your book budget is small like mine. Not only is it free to borrow a book but I don’t have to make a physical trip to the library. And with the price of gas, that is important.

However, I still go to the library.

Last week, my son and I went to our library and I noticed a new book by one of my favorite authors. This book could be purchased on Amazon.com but my budget didn’t include its purchase. So I was waiting for it to be offered electronically through the library. (It usually it takes a while for new titles to be offered electronically through the library.)

Anyway, I checked out the physical book. And I was grateful to get it and I’m enjoying the read. But, I was reminded of how difficult it is to read fine print. And I was reminded of how heavy hard back books are, especially when I’m reading in bed. And I found myself wishing I could read the book on my Kindle.

I love my Kindle.

But it makes me wonder how long physical books are going to be around in the future.

 
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Posted by on April 28, 2012 in Aging, Miscellaneous

 

I Biked 600+ Miles…

Last year, my husband gave me a recumbent exercise bike for Christmas. It was something I really wanted.

All my life I’ve been physically active. But, arthritis had taken its toll on my body. I could walk but not fast. And, since I have arthritis in my back, riding a regular bike was difficult.

 I hoped a recumbent bike would work because without exercise I’d lost all my energy. I always felt tired and sluggish.

I liked the bike and talked the family into letting me keep it in the living room. The alternative was the basement and I knew I’d ride it more if it was convenient. So I have a bike in my living room. It looks silly, but it gets ridden.

There are many shows I watch on television while I ride my bike… everything from the News and the History Channel to Survivor and NCIS and The Good Wife. Exercising while watching t.v. works for me. No, I don’t play tennis while I bike!

On Sunday, January 21st, I began to record my exercise. I’m pleased to announce that most days I ride for 45 minutes, 20 minutes in the morning and 25 minutes at night. On week-ends I try to do 45 minutes at one sitting.

And, since January 21st, I’ve ridden over six-hundred miles.

(To be exact, 613.4 miles!)

I don’t have a scale in my house so I don’t know if I’ve lost weight. (When I visit my doctor I’ll find out.) But, my clothes aren’t as tight so, if I haven’t lost weight, I’ve at least developed some muscle tone.

But, the important thing is I FEEL BETTER. I am more energetic, which means I’m happier.

 

I think it’s important, especially as we age (I’m 60), to exercise. I know I’ll never wear a bikini again. I know I’ll never do the splits or twirl a baton in a parade. But, exercise helps! Our bodies AND our minds.

If you don’t believe me, give it a try. It doesn’t have to be biking. Find an exercise that works for you.

 
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Posted by on April 20, 2012 in Aging, Health

 

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